The most important thing to remember is this: To be ready at any moment to give up what you are for what you might become.
– W. E. B. Du Bois
During periods of transition most people lack confidence, behave awkwardly and need to re-evaluate, re-prioritize, re-energize, learn new skills, and create a new vision and goals before they can move forward. Periods of transition are times to concentrate on refurbishing your inner self and to discover new possibilities for who you want to be and what you want to do in your life ahead.
Transitions are the time to reduce attachments to the past while positioning yourself for the future. It has been said that life is like being on a trapeze – that to move forward you must let go and reach out. As your transition coach I help you to do both.
People who are in transition come face-to-face with disruptions in “life as they knew it” and need support. Many turn to friends and family members for that support, but there are two potential problems with this approach:
* Friends and family members often have a vested interest in your staying the same. In many cases they are comfortable with who you have always been and what you have always done, and find themselves threatened by your potential for new growth and change.
* Friends and family members offer suggestions or advice based on their past experience – but what was right for them may not be right for you.
As your Coach I serve as your objective thinking partner and sounding board. My only objective is to help you find the solutions that are right for you. Specifically, I can help you to:
* Move forward despite the fear and uncertainty
* Find and focus on the advantages and new opportunities presented by your transition
* Become more comfortable with your ability to handle change and navigate transitions
* Get clear of the past and let go of feeling contained and limited by who you used to be
* Create a vision for your future that is grounded in who you are and what you want, that leverages your strengths and honors your values
* Create and prioritize new goals in line with your vision
* Define and execute an action plan for moving forward
I find that coaching is very effective during all of the four key stages of a major work or life transition:
1. Denial – When you are confronted with the need for, or reality of, a major work or life change it is natural for your body and psyche to react by entering an initial state of denial. You may feel numb and continue to do things the way you have always done in the past, even when this is no longer appropriate. Coaching can help you get clear about the nature of the change that is coming or is underway so that your mind can begin to catch up with your changing reality.
2. Resistance – once you recognize that you are in the midst of a major transition, the next common reaction is resistance triggered by fear, anger, or confusion. Coaching can help you to identify what is getting in your way (e.g., limiting beliefs and assumptions) so that you can move through it or leap over it.
3. Exploration – This stage begins with the acceptance that, “This is where I am,” and “This is what I have to work with.” The focus here is to discover what opportunities might exist in your new reality. Coaching helps you to expand your awareness of the possibilities that exist and explore potential options in light of who you are and what you most want. As you begin to see and pursue new possibilities, hopefulness, excitement, and momentum begin to take over.
4. Commitment – In order not to remain stuck in an ongoing analysis of endless possibilities, it is important to identify and commit to a vision and a path so that you can move on. Coaching can help you create a vision, mission, plan, and strategy so that the way ahead becomes clear.
Because I also specialize in Life Design Coaching I can help you use your transition as an opportunity to explore and create your ultimate dream/desire/vision versus just making incremental changes to “survive” the transition.
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